Thoughts about judgmental….
I’ve been mulling about this thought i noticed as a character trait of many. The dictionary defines it: “ having or displaying an excessively critical point of view.” Good thing I am not that kind of person. Just for clarity let me dissect by sharing my findings and my views…
“ Do not judge or you too will bebjudged. For in the same way you judge others, you will be judged, and with the measure you use, it will be measured to you,”. (Matthew 7:1-2]
“Judgemental” is almost always dubbed a bad thing. A character trait that is automatically negative, and one to be avoided in friends, romantic partners, and comrades alike. It’s a word we hear and tend to frown at, assuming such to be a weakness and an unfavorable way of being.
While being judgemental can be bad, like most things in life, there is another side to the coin.
If one is highly judgemental and it does manifest itself in a negative or toxic manner, then yes, this can result in repelling others, cause them to feel uncomfortable in your company, to feel not especially supported, heard, or cared for. In some cases, judgemental can be similar to mean spirited. This is the type that people are usually referring to or thinking of when remarking that someone is “judgmental,” meaning, not in a good way.
However, judgmental can be a positive, useful, even great thing. First off, whether we like to admit this or not, making judgments is part and parcel to being human. Important to note: to judge something is not fundamentally negative, contrary to the connotation we tend to tie to this word. Instead, to “judge” means “to form an opinion or estimate.”
Thus, this can either be a positive opinion, a negative, or even a neutral one.
Therefore, judgments are neither good nor bad. They can be either, both, or neither.
And these thoughts.
Certainly there are times when it is essential to exercise good judgment. There are also many times when judgment needlessly gets in the way.
Get beyond the need to make a judgment about every little thing, and rise to a higher level of awareness. When your energy is not consumed with constantly making judgments, you are free to be more positively effective.
Instead of contemplating whether the moment is good or bad, helpful or hurtful, accept that it simply is. Instead of fighting for or against something that doesn’t matter anyway, simply live the reality of it.
Letting go of your need to judge does not diminish or impair your ability to make worthwhile judgments. In fact, when your judgment is an intentional choice instead of a habitual reaction, it becomes more meaningful.
Spend less time and energy judging and categorizing every little thing that comes your way. Enjoy how much more aware and alive you feel when you get beyond the need to judge.
Make judgment something you use wisely instead of something you crave endlessly. And free yourself to fully live each moment.