Thoughts about backstabbing…
Out of the blues a friend asked me if I ever experienced getting backstabbed. I didn’t even have second thoughts and replied on many occasions. And quick to point out that it normally happened when you failed to give them the favor they asked for or simply jealous of you. And who are these people? Could be anyone, a friend, a co-worker or even a family member.
And how did you handle that? The quote below sums it up…
“People will notice the change in your attitude towards them, but won’t notice their behavior that made you change.”
What does it mean when someone backstabs you?
“Backstabbing consists of unkind and disloyal actions or remarks that are likely to harm someone such as a friend or colleague.”
backbite, betray, double-cross, play judas, sell down the river, and slander.
what are backstabbers?
A backstabber may say one thing to you, like feigning concern for you, but then tell others something totally different. In other cases, a backstabber might spread rumors and lies about you to make you look bad. You likely think of this person as a friend or confidant, but they’re not very trustworthy.
Why do people backstab?
Backstabbers are often insecure or jealous of you.
They want to drag you down to make themselves feel better. It may be cold comfort, but you’re probably living a great life or enjoying some type of success.
A friend might spread rumors that you’re talking bad about your mutual friends because they’re jealous of how much everyone likes you.
Maybe your friend is upset that you wouldn’t change your plans to hang out with them. Instead of telling you how they feel, they might tell all of your friends that you think you’ve outgrown your friend group and are trying to make new friends.
Your friend might gossip about you to everyone so they become the center of your friend group.
And these thoughts…
The anger that drives you will also block you. Let it go, and find a better way.
Retribution perpetuates itself endlessly on both sides, and no one ever wins. Forgive, and move beyond it.
Put thought and effort into making a difference, not just into making a point. Center your life around all you love, nurture, care for, rather than being consumed by what you oppose.
Champion your values through positive, beneficial action. Earn support for your cause not by bickering or intimidation, but by helping even those who disagree with you.
In a world of conflict, what attracts attention is not more conflict. Be a shining light of peaceful tolerance, respect, understanding.
Free yourself from the narrow confines imposed by judgment, retribution, resentment and anger. Open new positive possibilities for all of life.